SF -- Yoseph's Gentle Admonishment

segunda-feira, 18 de dezembro de 2023

SF -- Yoseph's Gentle Admonishment

Many years after being sold as a slave by his brothers, Yoseph encountered his brothers when he was the ruler of Egypt. At the climax of the drama, Yoseph says to his brothers, "I am Yoseph. Is my father still alive?" With these few words, Yoseph revealed himself to his brothers. He did not scold, nor confront his brothers. Nor did he scream, or try to make them feel guilty. He simply told them the fact that he was Yoseph. They then intuitively understood their mistake.

When one person rebukes another it is inappropriate to say any accusing, inflammatory, or hurtful words. Admonishment is not an excuse to unleash cruelty or anger. In light of this, concerning rebuke, the Torah states (Vayikra 19:17), "Do not bear a sin." That is, when offering rebuke, do not embarrass or hurt the person you are advising.

Refrain from saying all hostile words and do not engage in any negative criticism. If you must correct your friend, think very carefully of the gentlest way to convey your message. Approach your friend in privacy, and with great sensitivity and compassion. (Based on the writings of Rav Dovid Leibowitz)