דבר תורה: ״תתנהג תמיד לדבר כל דבריך בנחת לכל אדם ובכל עת. ובזה תנצל מן הכעס שהיא מידה רעה לחטיא בני אדם.״
D'var Torah: "Accustom yourself to always speak all of your words pleasantly to every person and in every situation. In this way you will save yourself from anger, which is one of the worst character traits for a person to display." (The Ramban's Letter)
There is no trait more worthy than attaining the good habit of speaking all of your words with pleasantness and gentleness. Your commitment to always use gentle linguistics will inspire you to never speak harshly nor act angrily to anybody. The receiver of your kind words, be it friend or acquaintance, will feel comforted and encouraged by your pleasant mode of conversation. What's more, by accustoming yourself to always speaking gently, you will develop a calm and gentle nature.
Moral: The first and foremost rule of attaining good personal relationships is the mastery of pleasant speech in all of our conversations.
Application: Repeat aloud the holy words of the Ramban:
״תתנהג תמיד לדבר כל דבריך בנחת לכל אדם ובכל עת. ובזה תנצל מן הכעס שהיא מידה רעה לחטיא בני אדם.״
"Accustom yourself to always speak all of your words pleasantly to every person and in every situation. In this way you will save yourself from anger, which is one of the worst character traits for a person to display."
Internalize the lesson and put it into practice.
Never say a harsh word or unpleasant remark to any person.
Encourage every person with your constant gentle and pleasant words.
(Based on the Letter of the Ramban)
