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quarta-feira, 11 de fevereiro de 2026

SF - # The King’s Secret and the Power of a Gracious Word

In honor of Drs. Karl:
With heartfelt gratitude, we wish you and your family bracha, hatzlacha, and abundant nachas!

Core Idea


The Ben Ish Chai tells of a king who fell into a deep, inexplicable depression. No doctor could find a cure, and no entertainer could bring a smile to his face. One day, a simple traveler requested an audience, claiming he held the remedy.

Instead of offering a potion, the traveler began to speak. He didn't speak of the king’s wealth or power; instead, he spoke with such profound kindness, humility, and genuine interest in the king's well-being that the king felt a physical weight lift from his chest.

The traveler explained:

"Your Majesty, the soul is nourished by the breath of speech. When words are harsh, critical, or arrogant, they act as a poison to the atmosphere. But when a person practices hospitality of the heart—welcoming others with soft speech and a gracious eye—they create a 'spiritual oxygen' that heals both the speaker and the listener."

The Journey of the Soul


The Ben Ish Chai emphasizes that hospitality (Hachnasas Orchim) is not merely about providing a bed or a meal; it is about the speech that accompanies the service. A meal given with a scowl is a burden, while a simple glass of water offered with a warm word is a banquet.

  • Speech as a Creative Force: Our words have the power to build worlds or destroy them. Soft speech (Lashon Raka) breaks the "bone" of resistance and fosters connection.
  • Hospitality of the Heart: To truly host someone is to give them a place in your mind and heart. This requires silencing our own ego and "jealousy" to make room for another person’s presence.


Practical Exercises

  1. The "First Word" Rule: Resolve that the very first word you say to anyone you encounter today—family, colleague, or stranger—will be a word of "hospitality." Use a greeting that makes them feel seen and welcomed (e.g., "It's so good to see you," or a warm "Good morning").
  2. The Critic’s Fast: For the next four hours, abstain from any form of critical speech, even if it is true. If you cannot say something that adds "spiritual oxygen" to the room, practice the hospitality of silence.
  3. The "Full Attention" Host: When someone speaks to you today, put down your phone and turn your body toward them. This is the ultimate form of hospitality—giving someone your undivided focus is a gift more valuable than any physical meal.

(Based on the Parables of the Ben Ish Chai)



Life Advice – עצת חיים


You are welcome to ask any question and receive a personal, private response from Rabbi Zvi Miller.


Please email: salantorg@gmail.com

Donations and Dedications

May the souls who left this world be remembered for a blessing.

HaRav HaGaon Rebe Mordecai ben Rav Moshe and Rebbitzen Mazel Malka bas Sara

R' Yochanon Mordecai ben Ephraim and Moras Esther Leah bas Yehudah Yoseph

R' Asher Zelig ben Zvi Hirsch and Moras Raizel bas Pesach

Meira Leah bas Michael

Basha Elka bas Moshe HaCohen

Devorah bas Moshe

HaRav HaGaon Rebe Yisrael ben HaRav HaGaon Zev Wolf

HaRav HaGaon Rebe Moshe ben HaRav HaGaon Yacov

Moshe Fisher

HaRav HaGaon Daniel Zvi ben Avraham Chanuch

HaRav HaGaon Ben Zion Freid

HaRav HaGoan Yaacov Yitzchak Abrahams

HaRav HaGaon Gershon Chaim ben Nachum Zev

HaRav Ha Gaon Yehoshua Bergman

R' Maair Ben R' Yakutiel and Javayeer z"tl

Rav Asher ben Chasha Mosha Basha and Chaya Breina Lazarus




Refuah Shleimah

Yochanon Baruch ben Fruma Ettta

Zivia bas Raizel

Tzvi ben Chana

Avner Shimon ben Argamon

Leah Hadassah bas Michal Chana

Chava Bas Michal Chanah

Nuna bas Nuna

Yakir Efraim Ben Rachel Devora

Chaya Leah bas Sara

Chaya Shaina Chana Bas Itcha

Netanel Ilan ben Shayna Tzipora

Shmuel Ben Navat

Chanah Tauba bat Tzilah.

Daniella bat Sarah

Rise bat Faiga

Kal Cholei Yisrael




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terça-feira, 10 de fevereiro de 2026

SF - # The Fragility of Material Shortcuts

In honor of Mr. and Mrs. Yaacov Granitzky:
With heartfelt gratitude, we wish you and your family bracha, hatzlacha, and abundant nachas!

This passage from Chovot HaLevavot (Sha’ar HaBitachon) highlights the psychological and physical prison created by relying on worldly "shortcuts" (alchemy) versus the liberation of trusting in HaShem.


Core Idea: The Fragility of Material Shortcuts


The alchemist—or anyone who relies solely on their own cleverness to secure wealth—lives a life of profound insecurity. Even if they succeed in "making gold," their success is their greatest liability. They are forced to hide their craft in shadows, fearing that the government or greedy individuals will discover their secret. Ultimately, their wealth does not accompany them to their end, and HaShem—the "Ruler of all"—may allow that very secret to become the instrument of their downfall by placing them at the mercy of those who would kill for it.


The Moral


True independence is not found in a secret bank account, a "perfect" investment, or a hidden advantage. Those things require constant protection and invite anxiety. Real freedom is found in Bitachon (Trust), which provides a security that no thief can steal and no king can confiscate.


Application Exercises


To shift from the "Alchemist's Anxiety" to the "Trusting Heart," try these three exercises:

1. The "Open Hand" Audit (Identifying Alchemy)

We all have "alchemy"—things we think we must have or do to be okay (e.g., a specific connection, a hidden side-hustle, or a certain image we project).

  • The Action: Identify one area where you are "hiding" your efforts or feeling overly protective/anxious about your source of income or status.
  • The Goal: Consciously acknowledge: "I put in the effort, but this source is just a tool. The Source is HaShem." Practice being slightly more transparent or generous in that area to break the "secrecy" trap.

2. The "Fear Replacement" Protocol (Mental Pivot)

The alchemist fears that "the Ruler of all will give power over him to someone who will put him to death." This is the ultimate fear of losing control.

  • The Action: When a financial or personal worry arises, stop and say the phrase: "The Ruler of all is the only one with power."
  • The Goal: Replace the fear of "the person/event that can hurt me" with the realization that even that person/event is under HaShem’s control. If He is for you, who can be against you?

3. The "Wealth of the Heart" Walk (Physical Security)

The Ba’al Bitachon walks safely because his wealth is internal.

  • The Action: Go for a 5-minute walk without your phone or wallet.
  • The Goal: As you walk, focus on the fact that your value and your sustenance are guaranteed by your relationship with the Creator, not by the items you carry or the "gold" you have stored. Feel the physical lightness of not having to "guard" your security for a few moments.



Life Advice – עצת חיים


You are welcome to ask any question and receive a personal, private response from Rabbi Zvi Miller.


Please email: salantorg@gmail.com

Donations and Dedications

May the souls who left this world be remembered for a blessing.

HaRav HaGaon Rebe Mordecai ben Rav Moshe and Rebbitzen Mazel Malka bas Sara

R' Yochanon Mordecai ben Ephraim and Moras Esther Leah bas Yehudah Yoseph

R' Asher Zelig ben Zvi Hirsch and Moras Raizel bas Pesach

Meira Leah bas Michael

Basha Elka bas Moshe HaCohen

Devorah bas Moshe

HaRav HaGaon Rebe Yisrael ben HaRav HaGaon Zev Wolf

HaRav HaGaon Rebe Moshe ben HaRav HaGaon Yacov

Moshe Fisher

HaRav HaGaon Daniel Zvi ben Avraham Chanuch

HaRav HaGaon Ben Zion Freid

HaRav HaGoan Yaacov Yitzchak Abrahams

HaRav HaGaon Gershon Chaim ben Nachum Zev

HaRav Ha Gaon Yehoshua Bergman

R' Maair Ben R' Yakutiel and Javayeer z"tl

Rav Asher ben Chasha Mosha Basha and Chaya Breina Lazarus




Refuah Shleimah

Yochanon Baruch ben Fruma Ettta

Zivia bas Raizel

Tzvi ben Chana

Avner Shimon ben Argamon

Leah Hadassah bas Michal Chana

Chava Bas Michal Chanah

Nuna bas Nuna

Yakir Efraim Ben Rachel Devora

Chaya Leah bas Sara

Chaya Shaina Chana Bas Itcha

Netanel Ilan ben Shayna Tzipora

Shmuel Ben Navat

Chanah Tauba bat Tzilah.

Daniella bat Sarah

Rise bat Faiga

Kal Cholei Yisrael




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segunda-feira, 9 de fevereiro de 2026

SF - # The Mandate of Empathy

In honor of Mr. and Mrs. Zev and Chana Breier:
With heartfelt gratitude, we wish you and your family bracha, hatzlacha, and abundant nachas!

Core Idea


"You shall not wrong a stranger, nor oppress him; for you were strangers in the land of Egypt" (Shemos 22:20).

Through this verse, HaShem issues a divine warning: do not exploit the vulnerable—the foreigner, the widow, or the orphan—under the delusion that they are defenseless. Your own history serves as the ultimate proof of My intervention. You were once the helpless slaves, and I was the Witness who saw your tears, heard your cries, and shattered the power of your oppressors.

The Ramban emphasizes that because of your history, you possess a unique "emotional intelligence." You know the "soul of the stranger"—the heavy heart and the eyes constantly turned Heavenward. HaShem promises that just as He responded to your cries in Egypt, He remains the eternal Guardian of the downtrodden, ready to intervene against any who abuse their power.


The Moral


Interpersonal dynamics often tempt those in power to mistreat the disadvantaged. However, the Egyptian experience imprints upon the DNA of Klal Yisrael a fundamental truth: no one is truly "helpless" when HaShem is their Advocate. We are commanded to transform our past suffering into a proactive shield for others.


Application Exercises


To move this from a concept to a character trait (Middah), try these three exercises:

1. The "Perspective Pivot" (Cognitive Empathy)

Think of a situation where you are the "insider" and someone else is the "outsider" (e.g., a new employee at work, a guest at a Shabbos table, or a person who doesn't speak the local language fluently).

  • The Action: Before speaking, recall one specific moment in your life when you felt lost, ignored, or "less than."
  • The Goal: Use that memory to adjust your tone. Ask yourself: "What is one small thing I can say right now to make this person feel seen and secure?"

2. The "Shield of Speech" (Preventing Verbal Oppression)

The Torah specifically warns against "hurting the feelings" (Ona'at Devarim) of the vulnerable.

  • The Action: Identify a group or individual you find it easy to criticize or speak down to (perhaps service staff, someone with different political views, or a younger sibling).
  • The Goal: Commit to a "24-hour silence" on any jokes or comments at their expense. Instead, find one opportunity to offer a genuine word of respect that acknowledges their dignity.

3. The "Moshe Observation" (Active Advocacy)

In the Application text, Moshe Rabbeinu did not just feel bad; he acted.

  • The Action: Scan your immediate environment for a "quiet injustice." Is someone being interrupted in a meeting? Is a child being excluded on a playground? Is a neighbor being spoken about unfairly?
  • The Goal: Intervene gently but firmly. Redirect the conversation or include the person who is being pushed out. By doing so, you are emulating the "Hand of HaShem" that rescues the oppressed from those stronger than them.



Life Advice – עצת חיים


You are welcome to ask any question and receive a personal, private response from Rabbi Zvi Miller.


Please email: salantorg@gmail.com

Donations and Dedications

May the souls who left this world be remembered for a blessing.

HaRav HaGaon Rebe Mordecai ben Rav Moshe and Rebbitzen Mazel Malka bas Sara

R' Yochanon Mordecai ben Ephraim and Moras Esther Leah bas Yehudah Yoseph

R' Asher Zelig ben Zvi Hirsch and Moras Raizel bas Pesach

Meira Leah bas Michael

Basha Elka bas Moshe HaCohen

Devorah bas Moshe

HaRav HaGaon Rebe Yisrael ben HaRav HaGaon Zev Wolf

HaRav HaGaon Rebe Moshe ben HaRav HaGaon Yacov

Moshe Fisher

HaRav HaGaon Daniel Zvi ben Avraham Chanuch

HaRav HaGaon Ben Zion Freid

HaRav HaGoan Yaacov Yitzchak Abrahams

HaRav HaGaon Gershon Chaim ben Nachum Zev

HaRav Ha Gaon Yehoshua Bergman

R' Maair Ben R' Yakutiel and Javayeer z"tl

Rav Asher ben Chasha Mosha Basha and Chaya Breina Lazarus




Refuah Shleimah

Yochanon Baruch ben Fruma Ettta

Zivia bas Raizel

Tzvi ben Chana

Avner Shimon ben Argamon

Leah Hadassah bas Michal Chana

Chava Bas Michal Chanah

Nuna bas Nuna

Yakir Efraim Ben Rachel Devora

Chaya Leah bas Sara

Chaya Shaina Chana Bas Itcha

Netanel Ilan ben Shayna Tzipora

Shmuel Ben Navat

Chanah Tauba bat Tzilah.

Daniella bat Sarah

Rise bat Faiga

Kal Cholei Yisrael




US 305 653 1182
Israel 058 429 8471


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