The Torah's narrative about Yoseph at age seventeen, begins by telling us two contradictory facts. Firstly, he fussed over his appearance, curling his hair and the like. Secondly, he befriended the sons of the handmaidens because the sons of Leah treated them like slaves. Subsequently, the Torah states: "Yaacov loved Yosef because he excelled in the mastery of Torah wisdom." Yet, there is no question that his brothers were also great Torah scholars. If so, what was special about Yoseph's Torah? Our Sages tell us that the purpose of Torah is repentance and good deeds. Meaning, the lessons of Torah must be internalized so that our actions resonate with Torah values. Even though Yoseph was younger than his brothers, he showed great strength of character in befriending the sons of the handmaidens. Instead of "following the crowd" who rejected the brothers, Yoseph stood alone in defense of his brothers, showing them great sensitivity. Yaacov had special love for Yoseph because he recognized that Yoseph, at such a young age, had already attained the primary principle of the Torah, "Love your friend like you love yourself."
A person who makes the love and concern for his fellow man the priority in his life, has attained the essential fulfillment of Torah. Even if he is young and lacking in maturity, his capacity to care for others is the ultimate spiritual attainment.
Be inspired by Yoseph's concern for the sons of the handmaidens, and open your heart to care for your fellow man. Dedicate a few minutes each day to instil the love for every person in your heart. Reflect on the people in your life and think of how you can be more sensitive and helpful to them. Before you pray open your heart to include all of Klal Yisrael in your prayers and contemplate on the axiomatic principle of the Torah, "Love your friend as you love yourself."
(Based on the commentary of Rashi)
