| Moshe Rabenu used great insight when he spoke to Yisro, his father-in-law, about becoming a member of Klal Yisrael. Moshe foresaw that Yisro would feel a sense of embarrassment, if he was given a portion of land as an outright gift. Therefore, Moshe prefaced the conversation by saying to Yisro, "Come with us and it will be good for you." Moshe suggested to Yisro, that his effort to travel with Klal Yisrael in the desert, would earn him the merit to receive his portion of land.
Moshe was sensitive to the awkwardness that Yisro would feel if he were to receive his land as gift. Therefore, Moshe presented Yisro's prospect of receiving land, as a reward for his great effort in accompanying Klal Yisrael in the desert.
Before you share your advice with another person, consider if your ideas might put them in an uncomfortable situation. Refine your words in order to encourage people with options that are harmonious with their peace of mind, and become a partner in their success. (Based on the Ohr HaChaim) | 
