| “Ben Zoma said: Who is honored? The one who honors others.” (Pirkei Avos 4:1)
At first glance, it may seem that honor is something others bestow upon us based on our status, accomplishments, or reputation. Yet Ben Zoma teaches us a profound truth: true honor is not taken—it is given. And paradoxically, it is through giving honor to others that we ourselves become truly honored.
If a person is genuinely deserving of respect and esteem, then being honored by others does not increase his inherent worth. External accolades cannot add to a person's true spiritual stature. However, when a person goes out of their way to honor others—to recognize their worth, to uplift their dignity, and to treat them with sincere respect—something remarkable happens. That honor returns to its source.
The honor we extend to others does not leave us diminished; rather, it enhances our own standing. People naturally respond to respect with respect. When we elevate others, we are elevated in turn. This is not flattery or manipulation—it is a deep human and spiritual principle: honoring others reflects inner nobility and invites reciprocal honor.
Today: Make it a habit to generously honor others—not only those of high stature, but every person you meet. Recognize their efforts, speak with kindness, listen with respect, and validate their presence. In doing so, you will cultivate an environment of mutual dignity—and the honor that you sow will return to you manyfold. Based on the commentary of Rabbeinu Yonah to Pirkei Avos
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