The Supreme Value of Friendship \ The Proverbs of King Solomon
D'var Torah:
"One who disgraces his friend lacks a heart, whereas a person who has understanding will keep silent" (Proverbs 11:12). The heart is the source of understanding. Therefore, a person who does not realize the consequence of disgracing his friend, is called one who "lacks a heart." One who disgraces his good friend, "lacks a heart" because he doesn't understand the precious value of a good friend. Moreover, he doesn't grasp that if he belittles his friend, his friend will eventually pay him back in kind. Even worse, he doesn't realize that he is turning a faithful friend, into an enemy. Whereas, a man of understanding realizes the consequences of disgracing his friend, and will never do so. A man of understanding will keep silent if his friend offends him. Indeed, a man of understanding will even keep silent if he is belittled by someone who is not his friend.
Moral: A person who humiliates his friend is ignorant of the value of friendship, as well as the consequences of his foolishness. A man of understanding knows that silence is the best medicine for every insult.
Application: Reflect on your family members and friends. Strengthen your appreciation for their love, help, and companionship. Make a commitment to yourself to never insult or belittle them, and preserve your invaluable relationships with your loved ones. Always recognize the wisdom of remaining silent in the face of offence.
(Based on the commentary of the Vilna Gaon to Mishlei)
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