| The Key to Healthy Relationships \ The Wisdom of Our Sages
D'var Torah: "Happy is the person who hears an offensive remark about himself and remains silent. He saves himself from a hundred troubles" (Sanhedrin 7a) Many people take the opposite track and react angrily to every offensive remark. While it is important to stand up for ourselves, a vengeful comeback causes much more harm than good. For instance, we have all experienced an impatient driver who honks at us for driving too slow. If you roll down your window and give him an earful, you will most likely receive a slew of insults in return. It takes great inner strength to hold your tongue when someone makes a hurtful remark. Yet, it is totally worth the effort because you will save yourself much unwanted conflict and strife. When you master your emotions and remain silent you foster peace, goodwill, and healthy interpersonal relationships.
Moral: Make every effort to avoid an emotional reaction to a hurtful remark and save yourself from much unnecessary trouble.
Application: Envision Hillel the Elder, who always holds his patience and calm. No matter how great the insult, Hillel the Elder never shows any anger. He accepts everything with peacefullness, a balanced perspective, and tranquilty. See how he keeps focused on maintaining his equilibrium and peace of mind. Imagine his pleasant demeanor, endless patience, and joy of life. (Based on Sanhedrin 7a with Rashi) We're on a search! Looking for a Shul or community to support the seminal Salant Kollel and Mussar Centre. AdoptAKollel.org makes it easy. Please contact Rabbi Zvi Miller for further information, at salantorg@gmail.com |
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